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An USAmerican in Paradise

Leaving Paradise
Part Six

Martha K. Harrison

Today we begin to make our rounds knowing it may be the last time we ever see some of the people we have met here.  Not that we won’t be coming back, we will; however, who can say if the people we see daily will be here or be in the same place they are now.  I love St-Barth, I love her people.  If it weren’t for familial ties in the States, I would not return any time soon.  But there are so we must go.

One of my sisters asked me what I would take from here and what part of me I would leave.  I am actually fearful I will leave too much of me and not live for anything but my return to St-Barth while going through the motions of life back in the States.  It will be difficult to find a happy medium.  Time will give me the answers to her question, although it has caused me to look around and seek the answers here.

Paradise isn’t just about beaches, sunsets, and rum drinks - although those things certainly make a great vacation.  Paradise is feeling at home, being part of a community, panoramic views, fresh air, and feeling safe.  It is nice to walk around and see smiling faces, people who are truly happy to see you, and visa versa.  This is what paradise is for me.  I have relearned lessons here that I was taught as a child but somehow lost as an adult.  Life on St-Barth is like the theme song from ‘Cheers’ - people know me by name here....and it is home

I feel very fortunate for being able to spend this time here, I wish everyone could.  I also feel good that I made the decision from my gut to come here rather than with my head full of should’ves, could’ves, and would’ves.  We have so many expectations placed on us by family, friends, and communities that often we do what is ‘correct’ rather than what is right for us.  This was right for me and I am happy I did not listen to the naysayers....including the one in my own head.

I hope I have enough photos to go with my memories.  Our scrapbook pile is huge, full of knick-knacks from our adventures here and little mementos from our Island friends.  

Baron Francois Scapini gave us three of his paintings.  He is the son of the French Ambassador to the Prisoners of War, W.W.II.  He has been drinking buddies with Ernest Hemingway and Ava Gardner, he was a professional jockey, and a rally car driver.  You won’t ever meet a more charming fellow.  

Sinclair Questel is the day bartender at Le Select.  He has given us hours of laughter, insight into the locals, history of the Island, and true friendship.  If he isn’t at Le Select when you come, it is because Sinclair is really a photographer - he will be out helping shoot the new Spiegel or Victoria Secret catalogs, or working with the world renown photographers who come here.  Sinclair’s family has been here for generations....he is St-Barth.

  Charles Darden has provided hours of entertainment with his music and a friendship that will span a lifetime....no matter where any of us end up.

Sophie, Fanny, Jean Marc, Jean Luc, Richard, Danny, Mireille, Jackson, David, Arno, Eddie, Bridget, Ingrid, Georges, Pascal, Simon, Jean Claude, Philippe, Laurence, Marius, Kristoffer, Patrick, Jean Pierre, Max, Teresa, Maxime, Laurent, Mary Linn, Fred, Poudi and others have all made our time here special and have made us feel at home.

Saying ‘’So long’’ to this Island will be one of the hardest things I have ever done.  Saying ‘’See you later ’’ to our friends will be even more difficult.  I can’t say ‘’Good-bye’’....it isn’t in me. 

I will take the peace I have found here and the lessons I have relearned with me - I hope the toil of daily life doesn’t steal them away from me too soon back in the States.  All of our new friends will live in my heart and cause me to smile, laugh, and cry even across the miles.  I will close my eyes and see the mountains, the sea, and hear the surf, letting it soothe my soul and rock me to sleep.

I will try to leave my hope of returning here with the pelicans soaring above.  And I hope my laughter will be heard by those who have touched me from time to time over the crowds that will soon fill the streets during high season.  I worry I have not given as much as I have received. 

Lazy days in paradise shortly coming to an end - sadness has set in and I refuse to look outside at the magnificent sky and sea to fall in love again as I have every day of my journey here.  I wonder if the people who will remain here will see what I have seen, feel what I have felt, I wonder if they have done what I have experienced while on this little pebble in the Sea.  Of course, I have never been to the Empire State Building.... and have lived in the NYC area for almost 18 years.  Why is it we aren't present in our own lives unless we are on holiday?  I know more about the people here than I do my own neighbors in the place I call home.  I know every road here, every lane, every turn and bump. 

I will miss the breeze filled sleepy nights.  Waking up in the middle of the night because nature is calling - literally.  I never realized how many times my eyes opened at night until they were filled with a sky of stars or a moon watching over me as I sleep.  There are no sleepless nights in paradise....the elements take their toll on your body in the day and they rock you to peaceful sleep in the nights. 

I seem to be waking up more at night now - fearing the stars have disappeared already -- before my journey 'home'.  It is a comfort to see them  and it is painful to my soul.... all too soon - the cool, breezy, star filled nights will belong only to those we leave behind.

 

 

 

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